The Danger of giving up your DREAM!
Posted on March 30, 2010
The Danger of giving up your DREAM!
Hi kids, I’m back again with my latest blog-The Danger of giving up your Dream. No matter who you are, where you come from, or what your background is, you have a dream or have had one at one time. And I don’t mean that thing that you just happened upon or some get rich scheme, I mean your real dream. The one that you are so passionate about that you would give your right arm for. Over the years I have watched as many friends and acquaintences have either deferred their dreams or given up on them completely. And of course there are a number of reasons why people say they give. Oh I’m too old, too fat, I got kids now, my job, don’t have enough time/money-you name it. Well Im going to out them by saying that 90 % of their excuse is a load of crap. They stop mainly because of fear, lack of support or because they are accommodating others. Yes I said it. If you don’t like where I’m going with this, I advise you to stop reading NOW! In many cases when people don’t see dreams come into fruition in a certain time frame fear comes in to play. Then they want to use everything from their kids to their arthritis as a poor ass excuse. Also instead of listening to their heart they start listening the wrong people and their personal opinions. Well here is a tip for all of you talented people who listen to the wrong people. DAMN THEIR OPINION! In most cases they are jealous of you and they really don’t want you to succeed. This would include (you ready)-FAMILY AND FRIENDS. Hard pill to swallow-(KEEP READING). Bottom line is if you have a dream in many cases you can’t share it with too many people. You can only share it with those who are equipped to handle the level you are on and who have been put in place to help you excel. You have to trust what your gut is telling you and forge ahead no matter what happens or how hard it gets. You can’t let fear and naysayers cripple you. You have to move ahead with courage, defiance and with utter contempt for the odds. Damn the cards that are stacked against you. Those cards are stacked against you to make you stronger.
THE DANGER!!!
I want to use an example that hits close to home because I know quite a few people who have done this. In many cases I have witnessed guys who sang in R&B bands hit the age 40, not make it in music and RUN TO CHURCH! Now please don’t misinterpret what I am saying. I love church. So this is not a slam against church and anyone’s spiritual life. I will explain. EXAMPLE: Soul singer turns 40-career not going the way he thought-next thing you know he’s a preacher. He uses the excuse that I’ve gotten too old and maybe God didn’t want that for me, or even still he claims that God called him to the ministry! Now while I do believe there are musicians/dreamers who are genuinely called to be ministers, pastors and evangelist. I bet the percentage of them who are not really called out ranks those who are. And you know what happens when it is not genuine. They wind up making grave mistakes and reverting back to who they really are. Even if the public doesn’t know. Then everyone is wondering why this person screwed up. Here is why! They make a decision based on fear and not what is truly in their heart and not what God is really telling them. They force a situation and get in over their heads and now they find themselves drowning. You can’t lie your way into a situation that is not and never was intended for you to be in. And there lies the danger of going against destiny. Same thing goes for the man or woman who gets married, has kids, gets a decent paying job and gives up. To give up is a GRAVE mistake! First off, your kids will have more respect for you if continue to dream and if you teach them how to dream than if you gave up. How can you tell your kids to dream and motivate them if you are a QUITTER. If you’re going to get married make sure you marry someone who understands who and what you are. You don’t need someone who is Anti-you, Anti-support, and Anti-your dream. They have to support you. If they don’t support you, either you will live a miserable lie of a life or the relationship will end in disaster. (And that rule goes for the married and unmarried). You need someone in your life who supports you. Stop letting significant others HATE ON YOUR DREAM! I DON’T HAVE TIME-If you don’t have enough time-MAKE TIME! This means even if you have to get up early or go to bed late to make it happen-DO IT! I get up at 4am daily-just to make it happen! TOO OLD-Bullshit! I’m a Grandfather of one and I play in a Rock Band-I’m in the best mental, physical and spiritual shape of my life and I’m not stopping! My mother is 72 and still dreams BIG! So if WE’RE not TOO OLD. YOU’RE not TOO OLD! If your friends and or family don’t support your dream tell them to shut the hell up. And if you have to put some space between you and them-DO IT. Send a stern message that you are who you are and they can like it or be scarce. BE YOUR OWN CHEERLEADER IF YOU HAVE TO BE!
You see family its dangerous as hell to stop dreaming. You will find yourself not being very nice. You will find yourself resenting those who you love. You find yourself not liking the person in the mirror. You will sit and watch in jealousy and malice at those who are taking the world by storm. Anger will be your twin! And you will have health problems. And all of those things are DANGEROUS! YOU SEE, it doesn’t have to be some super wild crazy dream. It could be something simple or something grand. Makes no difference how big or small it is. ROCK STAR or CADDY-just DREAM! The main thing is, if it’s important to you, if it warms your heart, if it gives you a since of purpose, if accomplishing it makes you feel like the greatest success story in the world, then it’s worth its weight in gold. You can’t afford to defer your dream another day. It (your dream) may or may not make you a millionaire, but you will forever be RICH. Success is not measured in the amount of money you attain, but by the happiness and fulfillment you gain by living in your destiny. Not pursuing and or living your dream will only put pressure on you and send you to an early grave. So then you get to Die twice. Because if you have stopped or you’re not dreaming-YOU ARE ALREADY DEAD! The place where you find the greatest number of unrealized dreams is the cemetery. So get up, start dreaming again and do something about it!
And for those of you who never stopped and continue to dream I applaud, respect and admire you. NEVER EVER STOP!!!!!!
I wrote this with YOU in mind. This is for all who dare to dream. I know how it is to get scared. I know how it is to lose your passion. In my past I have been in relationships where the support was crappy. I write this today for those who need a dose of truth. I’m doing it for YOU! I’ve been thru it and I made it over that hump. At this juncture in my life I am blessed with a beautiful family (spouse and kids/grand-boo boo), who love and support me. I am accepted 100 % for who and what I am. And I am forever thankful. And I say to you with all of the passion in my HEART DREAM FRIENDS DREAM!
Hi kids, I’m back again with my latest blog-The Danger of giving up your Dream. No matter who you are, where you come from, or what your background is, you have a dream or have had one at one time. And I don’t mean that thing that you just happened upon or some get rich scheme, I mean your real dream. The one that you are so passionate about that you would give your right arm for. Over the years I have watched as many friends and acquaintences have either deferred their dreams or given up on them completely. And of course there are a number of reasons why people say they give. Oh I’m too old, too fat, I got kids now, my job, don’t have enough time/money-you name it. Well Im going to out them by saying that 90 % of their excuse is a load of crap. They stop mainly because of fear, lack of support or because they are accommodating others. Yes I said it. If you don’t like where I’m going with this, I advise you to stop reading NOW! In many cases when people don’t see dreams come into fruition in a certain time frame fear comes in to play. Then they want to use everything from their kids to their arthritis as a poor ass excuse. Also instead of listening to their heart they start listening the wrong people and their personal opinions. Well here is a tip for all of you talented people who listen to the wrong people. DAMN THEIR OPINION! In most cases they are jealous of you and they really don’t want you to succeed. This would include (you ready)-FAMILY AND FRIENDS. Hard pill to swallow-(KEEP READING). Bottom line is if you have a dream in many cases you can’t share it with too many people. You can only share it with those who are equipped to handle the level you are on and who have been put in place to help you excel. You have to trust what your gut is telling you and forge ahead no matter what happens or how hard it gets. You can’t let fear and naysayers cripple you. You have to move ahead with courage, defiance and with utter contempt for the odds. Damn the cards that are stacked against you. Those cards are stacked against you to make you stronger.
THE DANGER!!!
I want to use an example that hits close to home because I know quite a few people who have done this. In many cases I have witnessed guys who sang in R&B bands hit the age 40, not make it in music and RUN TO CHURCH! Now please don’t misinterpret what I am saying. I love church. So this is not a slam against church and anyone’s spiritual life. I will explain. EXAMPLE: Soul singer turns 40-career not going the way he thought-next thing you know he’s a preacher. He uses the excuse that I’ve gotten too old and maybe God didn’t want that for me, or even still he claims that God called him to the ministry! Now while I do believe there are musicians/dreamers who are genuinely called to be ministers, pastors and evangelist. I bet the percentage of them who are not really called out ranks those who are. And you know what happens when it is not genuine. They wind up making grave mistakes and reverting back to who they really are. Even if the public doesn’t know. Then everyone is wondering why this person screwed up. Here is why! They make a decision based on fear and not what is truly in their heart and not what God is really telling them. They force a situation and get in over their heads and now they find themselves drowning. You can’t lie your way into a situation that is not and never was intended for you to be in. And there lies the danger of going against destiny. Same thing goes for the man or woman who gets married, has kids, gets a decent paying job and gives up. To give up is a GRAVE mistake! First off, your kids will have more respect for you if continue to dream and if you teach them how to dream than if you gave up. How can you tell your kids to dream and motivate them if you are a QUITTER. If you’re going to get married make sure you marry someone who understands who and what you are. You don’t need someone who is Anti-you, Anti-support, and Anti-your dream. They have to support you. If they don’t support you, either you will live a miserable lie of a life or the relationship will end in disaster. (And that rule goes for the married and unmarried). You need someone in your life who supports you. Stop letting significant others HATE ON YOUR DREAM! I DON’T HAVE TIME-If you don’t have enough time-MAKE TIME! This means even if you have to get up early or go to bed late to make it happen-DO IT! I get up at 4am daily-just to make it happen! TOO OLD-Bullshit! I’m a Grandfather of one and I play in a Rock Band-I’m in the best mental, physical and spiritual shape of my life and I’m not stopping! My mother is 72 and still dreams BIG! So if WE’RE not TOO OLD. YOU’RE not TOO OLD! If your friends and or family don’t support your dream tell them to shut the hell up. And if you have to put some space between you and them-DO IT. Send a stern message that you are who you are and they can like it or be scarce. BE YOUR OWN CHEERLEADER IF YOU HAVE TO BE!
You see family its dangerous as hell to stop dreaming. You will find yourself not being very nice. You will find yourself resenting those who you love. You find yourself not liking the person in the mirror. You will sit and watch in jealousy and malice at those who are taking the world by storm. Anger will be your twin! And you will have health problems. And all of those things are DANGEROUS! YOU SEE, it doesn’t have to be some super wild crazy dream. It could be something simple or something grand. Makes no difference how big or small it is. ROCK STAR or CADDY-just DREAM! The main thing is, if it’s important to you, if it warms your heart, if it gives you a since of purpose, if accomplishing it makes you feel like the greatest success story in the world, then it’s worth its weight in gold. You can’t afford to defer your dream another day. It (your dream) may or may not make you a millionaire, but you will forever be RICH. Success is not measured in the amount of money you attain, but by the happiness and fulfillment you gain by living in your destiny. Not pursuing and or living your dream will only put pressure on you and send you to an early grave. So then you get to Die twice. Because if you have stopped or you’re not dreaming-YOU ARE ALREADY DEAD! The place where you find the greatest number of unrealized dreams is the cemetery. So get up, start dreaming again and do something about it!
And for those of you who never stopped and continue to dream I applaud, respect and admire you. NEVER EVER STOP!!!!!!
I wrote this with YOU in mind. This is for all who dare to dream. I know how it is to get scared. I know how it is to lose your passion. In my past I have been in relationships where the support was crappy. I write this today for those who need a dose of truth. I’m doing it for YOU! I’ve been thru it and I made it over that hump. At this juncture in my life I am blessed with a beautiful family (spouse and kids/grand-boo boo), who love and support me. I am accepted 100 % for who and what I am. And I am forever thankful. And I say to you with all of the passion in my HEART DREAM FRIENDS DREAM!