IF ITS TOXIC-ITS GOTTA GO! (PiNK SLiPs)
Posted on March 24, 2010
I've often wondered why we as human beings allow toxic people and things to remain in our lives and existence. You would think that getting rid of them would be an easy process, but unfortunately for some it is not. Over the past several months I have been speaking to the people closet to me about this and I have been troubled. And through being troubled and seeing the light I have come to a GRAND conclusion! IF ITS TOXIC ITS GOTTA GO! I WILL GO DEEPER. If you read further you will see how I use my experience to enlighten.
As a musician and human being it is very important to me to give support to others and to be there for those I care about. I have always been that way. I have noticed however that there are many (so called friends or aquaintences) who dont feel that same way. I will use this example via my music, because it is something that is dear to me. It is amazing how people will spend anywhere from $60 to $1000 to go to a concert- to see an artist who they only know thru the MEDIA, but wont come out to support a friend who in most cases is asking them to pay nothing. NOTICE THE WORD FRIEND! But here is where it gets really interesting...Ask yourself a question....If your friend the musican and the same artist that you paid $60-$1000 to see were walking down the street together and they saw you were getting your ass kicked on the sidewalk.....WHO IS GOING TO STOP AND HELP YOU????? Starting to make sense yet. In other words support those who you know will support you! I take great pleasure in speaking my mind! I LOVE THE TRUTH! You can use this example in all aspects of life-THINK ABOUT IT-FRIENDS! Which Brings me to part 2!!!!! Are you READY because here is where it gets RAW!
Im going to be as blount as possible. If there is a person or persons, a situation or habit that is not helping to uplift you, helping you to grow or helping you to move forward.....GET RID OF IT! Rid your life of TOXIC CRAP. Here it is in a nutshell. When you truly look at it, what good is it to keep those people and or situation(s) around? You deserve so much more than that. Life is about growth and the last thing you need is an entity that holds you back. Go thru your facebook, myspace, twitter and your phone and take an assessment. If there are people who you have around who are not really true friends, people who are not helping you to grow, or people who you are not being a light to, CUT YOUR LOSES! ERASE ERASE ERASE. I started pink-slipping yesterday and it feels great. Life is too short to be playing fake. Be honest with yourself as hard as it may be. CLEAN YOUR LIFE OUT AND GROW! You have nothing to lose. If there is a situation or relationship that has become TOXIC! ZERO IT OUT! If there is a habit that holds you prisoner-ZERO IT OUT! Dont spend another day wasting time on people who dont truly care about you. Make this year your best year. It doesn't have to start on December 31st with some ill-fated resolution that will only last 30 days. The change starts now! Also-start being brutally honest with yourself and those around you! THE TRUTH WILL MAKE YOU FREE! Say what you have to say without regret. Tell people like it is. You have no time for negative things. Tell people to shape up or ship out if necessary. Dont let people use you as a dump. Your life is too valuable. Make a list of these people and ask yourself the following questions:
1. Is this person someone I CANT DEPEND ON?
2. Have I stopped growing?
3. Are they a constant source of negative action?
4. Are they always in need?
5. Would they back me up?
6. Am I always the GIVER?
7. Are they always the taker?
8. TOXIC - YES?????
9. Is this situation BAD FOR ME?
If you answered yes to any of these questions you are officially in a TOXIC RELATIONSHIP and you need to MOVE ON! You deserve people around you who love you, respect you, who want to see you grow, who contribute to that growth and who would hold your hand in a time of need. BIG NUMBERS IN THE FRIEND COLUMN ON FACEBOOK MEANS NOTHING!
Give yourself permission and start PINK SLIPPING TODAY! CLEAN OUT YOUR LIFE!!!!! I AM!
Spread LOve
VeGA~
As a musician and human being it is very important to me to give support to others and to be there for those I care about. I have always been that way. I have noticed however that there are many (so called friends or aquaintences) who dont feel that same way. I will use this example via my music, because it is something that is dear to me. It is amazing how people will spend anywhere from $60 to $1000 to go to a concert- to see an artist who they only know thru the MEDIA, but wont come out to support a friend who in most cases is asking them to pay nothing. NOTICE THE WORD FRIEND! But here is where it gets really interesting...Ask yourself a question....If your friend the musican and the same artist that you paid $60-$1000 to see were walking down the street together and they saw you were getting your ass kicked on the sidewalk.....WHO IS GOING TO STOP AND HELP YOU????? Starting to make sense yet. In other words support those who you know will support you! I take great pleasure in speaking my mind! I LOVE THE TRUTH! You can use this example in all aspects of life-THINK ABOUT IT-FRIENDS! Which Brings me to part 2!!!!! Are you READY because here is where it gets RAW!
Im going to be as blount as possible. If there is a person or persons, a situation or habit that is not helping to uplift you, helping you to grow or helping you to move forward.....GET RID OF IT! Rid your life of TOXIC CRAP. Here it is in a nutshell. When you truly look at it, what good is it to keep those people and or situation(s) around? You deserve so much more than that. Life is about growth and the last thing you need is an entity that holds you back. Go thru your facebook, myspace, twitter and your phone and take an assessment. If there are people who you have around who are not really true friends, people who are not helping you to grow, or people who you are not being a light to, CUT YOUR LOSES! ERASE ERASE ERASE. I started pink-slipping yesterday and it feels great. Life is too short to be playing fake. Be honest with yourself as hard as it may be. CLEAN YOUR LIFE OUT AND GROW! You have nothing to lose. If there is a situation or relationship that has become TOXIC! ZERO IT OUT! If there is a habit that holds you prisoner-ZERO IT OUT! Dont spend another day wasting time on people who dont truly care about you. Make this year your best year. It doesn't have to start on December 31st with some ill-fated resolution that will only last 30 days. The change starts now! Also-start being brutally honest with yourself and those around you! THE TRUTH WILL MAKE YOU FREE! Say what you have to say without regret. Tell people like it is. You have no time for negative things. Tell people to shape up or ship out if necessary. Dont let people use you as a dump. Your life is too valuable. Make a list of these people and ask yourself the following questions:
1. Is this person someone I CANT DEPEND ON?
2. Have I stopped growing?
3. Are they a constant source of negative action?
4. Are they always in need?
5. Would they back me up?
6. Am I always the GIVER?
7. Are they always the taker?
8. TOXIC - YES?????
9. Is this situation BAD FOR ME?
If you answered yes to any of these questions you are officially in a TOXIC RELATIONSHIP and you need to MOVE ON! You deserve people around you who love you, respect you, who want to see you grow, who contribute to that growth and who would hold your hand in a time of need. BIG NUMBERS IN THE FRIEND COLUMN ON FACEBOOK MEANS NOTHING!
Give yourself permission and start PINK SLIPPING TODAY! CLEAN OUT YOUR LIFE!!!!! I AM!
Spread LOve
VeGA~